Jan 19, 2012 Uncategorized
Posted by Desirae
Let me start by clarifying that I am not suicidal. I have just had many provoking thoughts about the subject.
Everyone knows someone who knows someone who committed suicide, and often times people think to themselves what would happen to them if someone close to themselves were to do the deed. If someone starts talking about suicide, most of societies advice is to “think about how you would affect your family. Think about your friends, think about this.” Which I COMPLETELY understand. On one hand suicide can be a very selfish act and most people when they think of what it would do to their family, stop entertaining the thought, or suppress it and they see how much they are loved yatta yatta..
However, I don’t think many people look at the depressed or anxious person’s point of view very often. If someone you know has taken their own life, yes, it is a very grievous thing and you are bombarded with thoughts of what you would’ve done differently to be there for that person, etc. But shouldn’t you have been there from the start? People are so fragile. How do you know how big the snow mound is that they are battling? How do we know which snowflake is going to cause the avalanche? We don’t. So we need to treat people like we would carry glass on top of a long pole. We need to treat people and their emotions so gently.
Back to the subject of someone who has already taken their life. Isn’t that such a sad, terrible, and depressing life that they honestly and truly felt like absolutely no one was there to help them, or if there were people there to help them, they were much past the point of no return.
Isn’t that sad, that that person had absolutely nothing to live for anymore?
Yes, suicide can be a selfish act. Depending on how you look at it. But I feel sad for people who blame them or hate them for “leaving them on earth” because that person must have felt that everyone left them!
Think about it. And treat people as if you could make it or break it for them. Would YOU want to be the snowflake that causes the avalanche?